Blended Families & Daughters
A PECULIAR, AND ULTIMATELY FASCINATING, SITUATION FOR STEP DADS
About half of all families here and across Europe and Australia are of the “blended” kind, meaning mom and dad remarried and made a happy home for step moms and dads and step brothers and sisters. Oh my, you might think. That could raise some interesting questions when it comes to family nudism.
Indeed it does, though much of it is explored elsewhere in strictly titillating ways that fail to look at the deeper meanings, if any, and truly understand the topic. On the other hand, if you sip some Gingko and give the subject some deep meditation, you’ll find it’s a many layered thing with all sorts of interesting angles. Sure, it can be a titillating subject. If you're in love with your eighteen-year-old stepsister, and she's a nudist, you may feel you've won the lottery.
The fact is, and I’m speaking to men here, stepdaughters tend to be girls, and you’re not biologically attached to them. If you’re a father, you’ve already noticed a certain squeamishness thanks to your interior radar when you’re around your naked or half-dressed biologic daughters. It’s natures way of suggesting you don’t go there, and if you have those impulses you may end up on weekend MSNBC.
However, take away the land-bridge formed by common blood and it’s another story. A stepdaughter doesn’t necessarily raise the alerts in your brain software that eliminate desires. Unless the family was blended when the kids were babies or toddlers, the taboo isn’t necessarily there. To be clear, I’m speaking here of your admirations arousal, your finding the sight of your naked stepdaughter attractive, even provocative. Remember, propriety concerns your outward actions, not what goes on inside your brain. What’s a step dad to do?
Unless you were born in a manger and chose a celibate life, it’s a discussion you’ll have to have with yourself if you become a stepdad to stepdaughters. You’ll be in close quarters for a long time and through certain stages of development in their lives that you’ll be able to monitor at close hand. You may see them in their underwear foraging through the fridge or step out of the shower. It’s not a problem when they’re very young, but when they’re fourteen it’s another ballpark and the game is a serious one.
The virtue of coherence as it relates to your sexuality cannot be broken by wishful thinking. You will probably be in a situation at some point where she’s growing up quickly and her hormones have as much control as did yours at fifteen. They’re scouting. They’re examining the terrain around them to see whether they are, as girls stepping into womanhood, attractive to you. They may flirt. How you handle it may have serious ramifications on your general dignity, and success in court if you’ve let it slip.
Contrary to what you might think, nudism has a disarming effect which makes the whole thing a lot easier to manage. Nudity doesn’t become blasé in nudist families, it just becomes the norm. You still get a tingle of enjoyment out of it that can be both sensual and wholesome. The word “stepdaughter” won’t raise the flags because it’s really just a noun in this case. Seeing naked girls is always pleasant and instructive (for stepbrothers especially). When you see a woman naked, when you’re “in the know” with that woman’s naked body, you’ve decreased the drama. Do you get it? It removes a few layers of tension. It makes things manageable.
In my own blended family, there was an “incident” while hot tubbing. My nude stepdaughter was well into puberty, blossoming and all that, and she momentarily sat on my lap, which of course was submerged and naked. She had no intentions in doing so. She just had to get away from the steps as her mother was getting out of the tub to fetch us drinks, and there I was in the way (small tub, five of us).
As she sat there I started to get an erection. I wasn’t willing it. The thing has a mind of its own, don’t you know. Whether she noticed or not I don’t know, but it was clearly evident. She must have felt it against her buttocks. I was horrified. I later told my wife about it, explaining “nature’s way” and all that, and she said, “Oh, don’t worry about it. I can explain it to her in the morning if she brings up that her pervert stepdad had an erection against her.” Let me add that she was kidding me as she liked turning when the knife when she held the upper hand.
Many years later when this stepdaughter was in college I had dinner with her during a business trip. My biologic daughter was to attend as well but couldn’t make it in the end. After catching up generally she brought up our “family nudism” while she growing up. She said her friends couldn’t believe she got naked with her stepdad, suggesting it was creepy. I can see their point, but when I asked how my stepdaughter felt about it, she said, “Oh, I always felt safe with you.” She didn’t bring up our tub incident. I felt relief after years of wondering about this episode. You fear they might go off the deep end with that kind of mental baggage, but she turned out fine.
And also quite attractive. Thinking I used to see her naked give me a little “tension” during our dinner. Men are the worst.
When it comes to nudism and celebrating the lifestyle with pictures in all these blog posts and member areas, of course the illustrations feature the full spectrum of naturists. The women can also be mothers and stepmothers, the teens daughters and stepdaughters, along with all the rest (dads and stepdads, aunts and uncles). Addressing a post such as this one as “nudist stepdaughters” is meant to convey not some puerile voyeurism, but the acknowledgement that they exist and are part of the nudist scene. They may as well be discussed in open and understood, both as people and as a phenomenon within our community. Like the rest of us, they have questions too, and stories to tell.
And people take pictures at the beach or at home all the time. That doesn’t change when they’re nudists. Well, obviously. Family Nudism: Nudist Life Experiences
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